Are you vulnerable?

Ugh, vulnerability is so hard!  But you know what?  We crave it!  We want to be known!  It is one of our deepest desires.  The only thing is we have to continually jump through anxiety and take risks and push aside fears to get there.

Each act of vulnerability is a challenge.  Sometimes it gets easier.  But the reward is so sweet.  It is absolutely worth the risk.  On the other side of sharing your inner self with someone else is a closer connection, a deeper friendship and a sense of being known and loved for who you are.

I pray that you have at least one relationship in your life where you are vulnerable.

There are healthy ways to go about this.  Making sure that you have established a friendship with someone first before diving too deep.  Matching each other in vulnerability levels as you go.  Making sure the person you are talking with is a ‘safe person’ meaning they are not going to use this information against you emotionally, psychologically, socially, etc.  A safe person is also someone who will bring comfort, encouragement and love when you share with them.

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Our ‘small group’ at church where we strive to be vulnerable with one another.

The Bible tells us to love others throughout the scriptures.  Some examples include:

John 15:12 “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.”

1 Corinthians 13:3  “If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.” – This is from the popular chapter 13 of 1 Corinthians, often recited at weddings.

Romans 12:9 “Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good.”

Mark 12:30-31 “ Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. 31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater than these.”  – This is quoting the Old Testament, Deuteronomy 6:4-5 and Leviticus 19:18.

To love people well you have to really know them and they have to really know you which requires vulnerability.

Another favorite verse that rings through my head when I’m about to step out in vulnerability is Psalms 107:2

“Let the redeemed of the LORD tell their story— those he redeemed from the hand of the foe”

Tell your story so that you and God can be made known.  So that the world will see that God is good because of how much He loves us!  Because God loves the imperfect and it is in our imperfections and weaknesses that God is strong.  (2 Corinthians 12:9-11)  Because our story if for His glory.  Our life can glorify God, especially in the vulnerable, messy and imperfect places.

Mark’s close friends of 20+ years

Do you have trouble being vulnerable?

Do you have deep friendships full of vulnerability, joy and a sense of knowing one another?  How did you get there?


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